A little slice of heaven, sanity, and peace
The morning alarm jerks you out of sleep. You sleepily remove a child’s foot (hand, elbow, insert other body part) from your exterior and climb out of bed. You stretch out all the kinks and make your way to the kitchen to grab your favorite morning beverage. (Coffee for me)
Within a matter of seconds your day kicks into high gear and it’s non-stop until you crash land in the bed that evening. Ahhhh, the bed.
There’s something missing from your arsenal of supermom tools. Coffee… check. Kids activities, meals, and school. Planned and scheduled. A space to call your own where no one is allowed to touch your stuff, enter, and can visit on a set schedule. Missing inaction.
As master doer of all things for all people in your family unit, you often neglect the most important person… you!
“You can’t pour from an empty cup”
You… We need time to recharge. Time to reflect. Time to decompress. As I entered the world of motherhood, my mother often reminded me that it was ok to be selfish because “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” I used to think she was mean and… wait for it… selfish. As I got older and the the kids outnumbered me, I started to understand what she meant.
If you’re not taking care of yourself you’re not in position to properly care for others.
I embarked on a personal journey to understand how to find the balance of self-care and family care. Because as a mom of 4 boys, entrepreneur, maid, chef, livery service, volunteer, project manager, schedule welder, and a ton other tasks of fabulousness, my energy was low and I was running on fumes. The solution to my problem was a space to call my own. And I mean my own… no remnants of kids or the Mr.. it was my space (do you remember MySpace? lol) All mine!
It started as a nook in the living room. I had a folding table, a comfy chair, my computer, and a bookcase. I was in heaven. I even positioned the table so my back was to the door (terrible Feng Shui mistake) and the living area. I was free to work, create, and relax. Hobbies were rekindled and I got to know myself again. Having a space of your own can and will do the same for you.
Virginia Wolfe wrote an essay titled “A Space of Her Own” that advocated women having a space of their own to ignite and promote their creative abilities. Before you say, you’re not creative let me offer you my definition of creative.
Creative is the ability to innovate, improve upon, or manipulate something. We often think of creativity as creating a work of art from nothing. Artwork, design, writing are all considered creative works of art. But what about the person who has the uncanny ability to explain the seemingly unexplainable in the most simplest way? Doesn’t that take creativity? I think so. Creativity is within us all. Some require a bit more work (or reprogramming) to pull it out than others. But, you my friend… are a creative being.
Back to your space… A space of your own allows you to feed your creative mind because you’re surrounded by the things, elements, materials, etc that light your soul on fire. When this fire is lit you’re like a kid on Christmas Day thrashing through the wrapping paper to discover the toy of their dreams. Santa came through again.
Imagine this space…
all your belongings are in the last place you left them…
it stays clean even when you’re not using it…
there’s always something to look forward to here, like quiet time…
A Better You
One of the greatest benefits to having your own space is how it affects you internally. How it makes you a better version of you. In your space, you’re free to explore the things that excite you, you’re free to sit in peace and quiet (in the dark too), you’re free to be present with yourself. No kids, no distractions, no requests. These all lend to a better you.
Are you a photographer… business owner… employee…crafter… lover of all things DIY… or a woman that has given so much of herself to everyone and everything around her that she’s lost sight of who she really is. Regardless where you fit in, a space to call your own is the first giant leap forward to saved sanity, internal peace, and calm through a storm.
The people (little people included) that rely on us in life to be there and show up day after day need us to be the best version of ourselves.
Show me your space using the Instagram hashtag #herchicspace
To beautiful spaces and faces